I was a sad girl before
I would drink and drink till I passed out
But sad girl am I no more
They called me a chingona, pero inside I was still triste.
I thought I’d find the solution to todas mis problemas at the bottom of the Miller lite can
Pero
The answers never came and the sorrow continued to follow.
I swore I’d never drink like my father, mis tíos, primos y hermano,
Pero
There I was drinking the night away throughout El Verano y into Enero.
I thought I was having fun y creo que I was free to be me
Pero no,
I was just sinking deeper & deeper into the sea
The sea of tears
The sea with too many beers
And then came the hits…
My body took too many of the hits
All the cochinos who wanted to grab my tits
And throw me to the ground to enter my body
How did I get here I would wonder
And then I’d fade away back to the little girl
The one who was so innocent and free of hurt
The one who loved playing in the dirt
Who knew she was one con la Tierra
Era mestiza y tejana
Who was this new girl
The one who passed out drunk
To wake up to another man inside her
On too many occasions to remember?
Pero now she’s truly free
Free from the sadness, the anger, the tragedies
Recovery is a beautiful thing.
They tell you un Día a La vez
Por que it’s hard to live sober
Pero it’s worth it and so are you
My prayer is that you will let go
Of all the pain and suffering
And remember que eres chingona
You can do hard things, Esa
Don’t let them tell you who you are
PorquePor que tu sabes quien eres
Eres chingona, poderosa, Diosa y mas
And you live each day con gratitud
Because your ancestors brought you here,
They carried you like a baby
So tender and loving with their prayers
Keep shining in your liberation
After all, this is your peoples’ nation.
They say we are all alcoholics
What they fail to remind us of is all the colonization, genocide and more they put our ancestors through
It’s okay though
Because we continue to learn and grow
And give back
To those behind us
So there will be no more sadness
And drinking
And overthinking
Only freedom
Power
And more
Stay clean
Free tu cuerpo from all the toxins
Recovery looks good on you
Mujer Bonita
Published by Dr. Alexia de León
I am an Assistant Professor and Program Director of Professional Mental Health Counseling-Addictions Specialization at Lewis & Clark College in Portland, OR. I have been in recovery for 9.5 years and write to liberate myself and others from our past traumas and to promote mental health awareness for Latinx communities. I love being outdoors in nature hiking, swimming, biking or anything else that involves body movement and liberation.
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